Grammar policing is one of the nastiest and most privileged forms of derailing I’ve come into contact with. When you nitpick a person’s argument because of formatting, grammar, or spelling errors, rather than examining the actual intent and objective worth of what they are saying, you’re not just derailing, you are silencing people and closing off the debate to large groups of people.
When you police grammar and spelling in discussions, what you are saying is:
- discussion is only a space for the academically minded
- for the formally educated, perfect English speaking, college-level minority
- self-expression must adhere to racist/ablist/classist/neurotypical standards to be of worth in a discussion, to matter to you, because you uphold those standards and therefore your opinions and expression matters above all others
- I don’t want to engage you or your point, or your experience, because I don’t like the way you’ve expressed it, it is not the way I express things
All of these are bullshit, all of these things are ways to dismiss arguments, stifle expression, and erase entire groups of people from the discussion. When you ask people to only engage you if they are educated enough, neurotypical enough, versed in your language of choice, and detached enough to put up with all of your bullshit and play nice with people who are likely actively or passively oppressing them? You are cutting off entire perspectives from your debate, and you are being a fucking asshole. If you read someone’s post and dismiss what they are trying to express because you think they were rude (tone argument), or illogical (you’re too emotionally invested), or didn’t spell something correctly (grammar policing), you are seriously just being a privileged dick and either pushing people out of your space, or invading their space to try to hold them up to your bullshit standard, and you need to gtfo.
Something to think about.
- Charlie Sheen
- Sean Connery
- Gary Oldman
- David Hasselhoff
- Mel Gibson
- Michael Fassbender
- Nicholas Cage
- Gary Busey
- Bill Murray
- Alec Baldwin
- Phil Hartman
- Tommy Lee
- Josh Brolin
- Sean Penn
- Woody Allen
- 1Roman Polanski
- Axl Rose
- Sonny Bono
- John Lennon
- Sean Bean
- Elvis Presley
- Kelsey Grammar
- Rob Lowe
- Chris Brown
Who Tumblr/Internet/Society cares about when they beat/rape women:
- Chris Brown
Let’s not forget that John Lennon is on that list! Please stop posting his quotes about peace and family. They don’t make senese considering the context.
My INTENT wasn’t to run your child over with my car. Therefore, your child isn’t REALLY dead. —
Racist Logic Applied to Other Life Situations
Never forget, if a racist says they didn’t mean it THAT way, “Nobody” is REALLY hurt by what the racist said. (via racismschool)
(Source: cant-party, via thisiswhiteprivilege)
(Source: prochoiceinpink, via sapphrikah)
What I love about being queer is the ability to grow and transform my sexuality. The recognition that our sexualities are complex and ever evolving, just as every other part of us, is a blissfully freeing thing. Regardless of anything else in the entire world, I am not bound by anyone else’s rules beside my own. Queer is freedom, possibility and space.
-Kim Crosby, Toronto
PREACH! People always try to tell girls how to avoid putting themselves in situations where they could get rape but never tell guys don’t rape and if a girl says no believe her and stop.
(Source: thispainshallpassaway, via ethiopienne)
37 Books By, For, or About Bisexual or Otherwise Non-Monosexual People
The Internet, and actually also real life, can be a minefield for people who want to learn about or talk about bisexuality. The effort of trying to sift through the straight-up biphobia and the fetishizing porn aimed at straight men can wear you out long before you manage to find anything helpful, insightful, or illuminating. To try to make this process a little easier, we’ve compiled a starter of a list of resources. Here you’ll find academic books and nonfiction books documenting the experiences of bisexual people, fiction or memoir that depicts bisexual people, and a few online resources.
We recognize that this is by no means complete! We’d love to find more resources, especially those dealing with bisexual trans* people and bisexual people of color, and would love to add resources that speak not just to bisexuality, but to pansexuality and omnisexuality and other identities. If you have any suggestions, let us know in the comments!
Also, this list is such that not every title on it could be read and vetted by us personally — we can’t guarantee that these texts depict bisexual people in unproblematic ways, that the ideas put forth by bisexual authors are unproblematic, or that these texts are free of cissexism and racism. If there’s a reason these texts shouldn’t be recommended, let us know!
More Resources: Now available for pre-order world-wide — Bi: Notes for a Bisexual Revolution by the well known academic and activist Shiri Esiner (aka bidyke on tumblr) who explains, “It’s my attempt to create a radical bisexual politics, and it is deeply informed by intersectionality, feminism, trans politics and race politics – not in the least because I myself am a trans* person of color.”